A relationship goes the distance because you have two people that want it to. Two people that are willing to do what it takes to make work.
Think of a relationship like a seesaw where there are going to be times where one person is up, times where you are up and the other person down, and lots of times where you both in balance.
The secret is don’t get off the seesaw. Because the second you get off, you no longer want to work on the relationship, you no longer think it will go the distance, and the whole thing breaks. When you look back on previous relationships where it didn’t work you can see that way before the breakup somebody got off the seesaw.
Throughout the relationship you can ask yourself if you are even on the seesaw? Because if you are not then the relationship will not work.
Love is about consideration for the other person. Do you actually care about what is important to the other person? Do their needs actually matter? Do you really see and value the other person? There is a difference between impact and intention.
See the excellent example illustrating this about cardboard boxes from 50:00 to 56:00 minutes in the following podcast link from Mel Robbins. And the entire section from 47:30–56:00 is great!
Mel Robbins — The “Let Them Theory” and How It Can Change Your Life | Prof G Conversations
