In NVC (nonviolent communication) there is a framework of OFNR (observations, feelings, needs, and requests) which can also be applied to when we set boundaries. That is, we can follow OFNR to help establish boundaries.
For example, let’s say you are out with some friends and would like to leave to get to bed on time. You observe how late it is, and that you are feeling tired, and have a need to take care of yourself and you formulate a request to excuse yourself to go home. You could say to your friends something like “I notice that it is getting quite late for me and I am starting to feel tired and have a need to take care of myself. I will be heading out now, how does that sound?”
Do my boundaries separate or connect (help create more togetherness)?
Anger can be a signal that some boundary may be needed.
Boundaries can also be thought of — “what I am willing to do, and not willing to do.”
For example, if you throw your toy on the ground I will go to the other room and not pick it up.
Here is what I am willing to do.
Here is what I am not willing to do.
