These misfirings then, cause dysfunctional warding off of feelings in four different ways:

  1. fighting or over-asserting one’s self with others in narcissistic and entitled ways such as misusing power or promoting excessive self-interest;
  2. fleeing obsessive-compulsively into activities such as workaholism, sex and love addiction, or substance abuse (uppers’);
  3. freezing in numbing, dissociative ways such as sleeping excessively, over-fantasizing, or tuning out with TV or medications (‘downers’);
  4. fawning in self-abandoning and obsequious codependent relating. (The fawn response to trauma is delineated in my earlier article on “Codependency and Trauma” in The East Bay Therapist, Jan/Feb 03).

14 Common Inner Critic Attacks

13 Steps Flashbacks Management

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Kalen

Buddhism, mixed with my current interests in economics, privilege, immigration, etc. Email <my username>@gmail.com