- Keep track of the good stuff
Identify at least five things your partner routinely does to show love. Keep track of the big and little things both of you do or say that make you feel loved and connected to each other.
Generosity was defined as “the virtue of giving good things to one’s spouse freely and abundantly,”
2. Hold hands
Find as many opportunities as you can to hold hands with your partner today.
Then, spend a few minutes talking about something in your life that is causing you stress and anxiety. Maybe it’s a problem at work, an issue with the kids or a financial worry. Whatever it is, hold your partner’s hand while you are talking about it.
3. Read to each other
4. Accept the small problems
Write down one or two of your partner’s annoying habits that create occasional conflict in your relationship. (Often, these small conflicts involve domestic chores, such as paying bills, doing laundry or making the bed.)
Share your picks with each other and talk about them without judgment. Use the conversation to identify a positive trait that might help explain the behavior. Maybe your husband drops his things in the entryway every night. Is it because he’s rushing to see the kids before bedtime? Is your wife grumpy after work? Maybe it’s because she skipped lunch during work so she could be home sooner with the family.
Learning what’s behind a particular behavior can help you accept it — and even appreciate it.
5. Share your perfect day
Imagine your perfect day, and share it with your partner over a meal. Discuss it in as much detail as possible so that you reveal information about your likes, dislikes, hopes and dreams.
6. Feel each other’s heartbeat
Stand and face each other.
Each of you should place your right hand on the other’s chest, just over the heart.
Bring your left hand to your own chest and cover your partner’s hand.
Spend the next minute looking into each other’s eyes as your hands rest on each other’s hearts and hands.Be present and quiet together.
7. Practice gratitude together
Write down three things about your partner for which you feel grateful. Take a moment to read what you wrote about each other.
